(ADULT) It’s no secret that most guys enjoy sucking or getting sucked, of not both. It’s rare to find a guy who turns down a sloppy slurp to release. For lots of us, it’s like cold pizza; even when it’s bad, it’s still pretty good.

But can polishing the nob really be sacred?

My answer, always, is “most definitely.” The key to a sacred blow is to pay attention to a few things. Follow them, and I believe you’ll find “cold pizza” bjs will turn into gourmet bjs, whether you are standing strong, or on your knees.

First things first: Be present, be aware, set intention

Like most things, the more you focus, the better the results can be. So take a moment when you’ve found your blow-conspirator, and connect. Feel the excitement in your body, gaze into his eyes, and hold off on diving in. Appreciate the joy that’s coming-figuratively and literally.

You’re about to have some intense pleasure – so relish it!

Now, you don’t have to be partnered or even dating to enjoy the experience. BJs with hookups can be hot, too. The beauty is, you get to choose. The possibility of pleasure is always there – so drop the guilt and shame, and do what works for you.

And setting an intention can be powerful. If you are the sucker, maybe your intention is to make it intense for him. I find it powerful when I know I want to please a guy. Making it great for him makes it great for me. See if you can figure out what works for you.

If you’re the suckee, lucky you. Here’s a guy who’s willing to service your trouser snake. It can never get enough attention, right? See if you can get into just having your cock worshipped. Lean back, relax, and enjoy, because for most of us, it probably doesn’t happen enough. Allow yourself to enjoy just being pleased.

In the act: Pay attention, play with the power, feed the senses

Regardless of your role, the goals are the same. How is he responding? Look in each others eyes from time to time. Watch his body. What licks and strokes does he like? Whatever it is, do that more.

The power dynamic can feed erotic charge as well. When I get sucked, I get hard knowing the guy wants to make me feel good. I enjoy my cock being worshipped. When I suck a guy, I get my rocks off spiritually knowing he’s allowing me to please him. What he’s feeling, what he’s enjoying – I’m a big part of that.

Pay attention to the sights and sounds. What does he smell like? What noises is he making? Does he like being touched in some ways more than others? Where do your eyes go? What do you desire?

Get lost in connection, revel in the moment, make it explosive

The sacredness of the experience is based on your intention, your presence, and most of all, your unique connection to your blow buddy – in that moment.

At no time in the past, and in no time in the future, will you both have this again.

And you’ve both chosen each other for that moment, for that pleasure, for that intention.

Done right, your moments will be an escape. You aren’t thinking about the past, and you could give a fuck about the future. What’s happening is in the now. It’s intense, and it’s beautiful. Those are the moments you are invited to create. The moments that make life worth living.

Good luck. Go forward. And find the sacred in the suck.

This article was originally written for publishing on Himeros.TV, a project of Davey Wavey, Digital Storyteller.

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