When you need to escape: One option for self-care
Getting away from home and changing your surroundings can be one of the most healing and important aspects of self-care.…
Category: Embodiment
Eros, Creativity, and Healing: Thoughts About Connecting with Yourself
In this unforseen and unprecedented time, I find one of themes emerging in chatting with others involves how to adjust…
Breaking down barriers: Transcending beyond fears of offering touch
One of my greatest passions and pursuits in life is to guide others into understanding how the power of our…
Body workers, personal healing, and personal growth: The 2019 AASECT Institute
I am so very humbled and excited to share that I will be part of the faculty of the 2019…
Upcoming article: An examination of embodiment workshops through a clinical lens
I drafted a paper in the Spring of 2018 as part of my work to complete my comprehensive examinations in…
Tickling Kink? Erotic Play Through Laughter
(ADULT) When jumping into erotic exploration, most people don’t think about tickling as a way to build energy and connection. But…
My experience attending an eros workshop that changed my life
About seven years ago, in 2010, after completing Celebrating the Body Erotic (CBE) a couple of years prior, I said…
Education Update: IRB approval and dissertation research begins soon
It’s been five years since I first boarded a plane to San Francisco and began a journey into my future.…
How to “Do It:” Great sexual health guides for diverse communities
Working in sexual health and wellness, I find that folks often seek safer sex resources that speak their language and…
Honoring others’ gender identities
Who we are is … well … who we are. And only we have the right to claim who we are. And…
Life learning: Seeking growth and awareness
The other day I was driving home and started to think about how long I’ve “been in school.” I started…
Breaking down barriers: Gay men and HIV
Not too long ago, I found myself in a place of connecting intimately with a men I had recently met.…
Claiming my sexual health: My journey with PrEP
Tantamount to any decision that I make in my life is to be in full awareness of who I am,…
The beauty of humanity: Beyond the binary
This week, in the midst of all the other countless chaotic situations our country is experiencing, we get word that…
The pleasure principle: Reclaiming your joy by reducing your risk
(ADULT) For many people who are attempting to live a satisfying life, having sex without fear and anxiety can be…
What does intimacy look like? One perspective
Many moons ago, high on a mountain in northern California, during a retreat for healing, I created an experiment. I…
Finding Your Power in Chaos: A Chat with Life Coach Dave Allen
We are living in unique times. Institutions are transforming, people are rising up in both words and actions, and the…
Turning jealousy into ecstasy: Opening up relationships
(ADULT) One of the biggest challenges you may face when in a committed relationship is exploring “opening” that relationship. To…
Healing I have experienced in Power, Surrender, and Intimacy
My experience of attending Power, Surrender, and Intimacy (PSI) was transformative, spiritually healing, and soulfully invigorating. My journey to PSI was a…
We need comprehensive sex education NOW: HIV Crisis on the Texas-Mexico Border
As a Mexican-American who grew up along the U.S./Mexico border in the 1970s-1980s, I suffered through the stigma of homophobia,…
Per a recent study of sex toy purchases: Bondage is big in Texas!
(ADULT) Ever wonder what sex toys are popular in your state? Bespoke Surgical examines Google Shopping data to find out…
Bottoms up! Dr. Evan Goldstein presents the Art of Bottoming
(ADULT) Here’s a wonderful video recently posted on the internet. ‘The Art of Bottoming’ is hosted by Dr. Evan Goldstein of Bespoke Surgical at The…
The 411 on Sexual Health: Real, Practical Guide for Gay Men
Looking for information about sexual health that is honest, real, and appreciative of your sexual expression? Look no further than…
Expanding your sexual repertoire: Creating experiments for learning
(ADULT) I often work with men who seek me out because they aren’t satisfied with their sexual and intimate lives.…
Top or bottom: Playing in the binary
(ADULT) Top or bottom. Dominant or submissive. Giver or receiver. Penetrative or receptive. Active or passive. We all know the…
In our bodies: Breaking through to self-love
(ADULT) For all the enthusiasm that lots of gay men have about their sexual encounters, I often hear quite a…
Sex selfies: Narcissist or nurturance?
(ADULT) Admit it. If you haven’t done it, you’ve probably thought about it. You’ve at least contemplated (if not taken)…
Why take the leap? Taking your first journey with the Body Electric School
When people ask me about the Body Electric School, the question I often get is, “Why should I take this…
How to connect to eros through creative expression
Creative endeavors feed our ability to better understand ourselves. Exploring our senses through “play” can lead us to learn more…
Embracing Kink as Transformative Experience: Mollena Williams-Lee Haas
WLT*I* Easter Conference Talk – Mollena Lee Williams-Haas from Mollena Williams on Vimeo. One of my favorite kink educators, Mollena…
My interview with Dr. HazelGrace Yates on the healing among genders
Produced March 16, 2018 – I interview Dr. HazelGrace Yates on her radical work to bring individuals identifying as men…
My interview with Galen Fous, MTP, on kink for healing and transformation
Produced November 24, 2017 – I interview Galen Fous, MTP, author, lecturer, and transpersonal psychologist, as he shares his perspective of…
Online workshop: Exploring Eros for More Expansive Living
Produced September 13, 2016 – I facilitate an online exploration of eros as a way to expand upon life…